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I just found out
Finding out can feel like the floor fell out. Shock, anger and fear are all normal.
You don't have to decide anything tonight. First, protect your own money: check your accounts and change shared passwords.
Try to talk when you're both calm. Say what you saw and how you feel. Avoid long lectures.
Reach out for your own support too. Gam-Anon exists for exactly this moment.
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Common questions
- I just found out: where do I begin?
- Finding out can feel like the floor fell out. Shock, anger and fear are all normal. You don't have to decide anything tonight. First, protect your own money: check your accounts and change shared passwords.
- What should I avoid?
- Avoid big decisions in the first heated moment, paying off gambling debts with no plan, and carrying this alone.
- Is there support for me?
- Yes. Gam-Anon is for family members, and the national helpline at 1-800-MY-RESET (1-800-697-3738) helps loved ones too.
- Who can I talk to today?
- Call or text 646-721-2056 to talk to a real person. For the national gambling helpline, call 1-800-MY-RESET (1-800-697-3738). If you feel unsafe, call or text 988.